I was reading one of the late Wayne Dyer’s books. He mentioned the book, The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho, and said it had had an enormous impact on his life. He said it’s a short book full of wisdom. I liked the idea of “short” so I took it out from the library. One of the themes of the book that comes up over and over again is that if you have a life goal (the author calls this one’s “personal legend.”) the universe will conspire to make your dreams come true. In other words, when you pursue your dreams you seem to get awfully lucky.
Have you let time allow you to forget your dreams?
Coehlo defines the personal legend as something you discover when you are young when everything seems possible, when you aren’t afraid to dream. As time passes, many of us become convinced that it’s impossible to realize this dream. Have you been afraid to act on your dreams because you are worried about the amount of time it will, the money it will cost or what others think?
When you challenge yourself to live your dream, the universe conspires to help you
I’ve seen this over and over again with my clients who are trying and trying to lose weight or make major life changes. Once they finally decide on their goals and decide to be unstoppable, somehow things just work out. They find the resources they need, they are able to focus and maintain to do what is needed to achieve their goals. I experienced this when I felt called to return to school to become a Physician Assistant. I had been teaching yoga for many years and felt that I needed a medical degree with its knowledge and privileges to truly serve people. I was already in my early 40s with two small children at home and I was taking on a 5-year, very expensive, time consuming and intellectually challenging commitment, which required that I return to school to both do undergraduate medical pre-requisites, subjects I had never studied on the college level having liberal arts degrees, and earn a master’s degree. I was told that getting into PA school was extremely challenging, and the fact that I was limited by geography because of my children’s school and my husband’s work would make it nearly impossible and, after a few years and a lot of hard work, here I am today.
Other people may have thoughts about your goals. You don’t have to believe their thoughts.
How many times have medical professionals or well-meaning friends or colleagues told you that you are too “old” to lose weight or that it’s too hard once you hit 35 to lose? How many times have you heard that it’s your genes and there is nothing you can do about it? What about your other goals? Have well-intentioned friends and family told you it’s too late to pursue a second career and why not just stay where you are? I remember when I was in a chemistry undergrad pre-req class at my local community college with some pre-med and nursing students. The pre-med students were all in their 20s and the nursing students ran the gamut from 18 to 50. Several of them, like me, were pursuing a mid-life career change. One nursing student, around my age, I’ll call her Sara, told me that I would NEVER get into PA school because of the low acceptance rate and that, even if I did, it would be too hard at my age and I probably wouldn’t be able to hack it. Her attitude was “why even try because you are going to fail.” By the way, I call this failing ahead of time. Sara said I should do something easier. She herself was quite accomplished with two Master’s degrees so I found this attitude puzzling. I did consider what she said and weighed my options. In the end, I decided to take a chance and, being slightly rebellious in nature, I decided I would “show her.” What I really was doing was showing MYSELF that I had the capacity to be unstoppable.
Sometimes when you share your dreams and goals with others, you may receive what appears to be resistance, criticism or downright hostility from people.
This may be particularly painful coming from a parent, close friend or a sibling. It is understandable and deeply human to rely on others’ opinions because we are approval seeking as humans. By and large, these people’s intentions are benign. From their point of view your goals may seem foolish and unattainable. But this is THEIR BELIEF and a belief is not the same as a fact. Ask yourself, why is their belief more valuable than your own? Which of the two of you knows you better (you do of course!).
Don’t expect it always to be easy. There will be challenges so you need to be UNSTOPPABLE
In The Alchemist, along the hero’s journey, he gets way-laid from his goal for almost an entire year because someone has stolen all of his money. But, he never gives up. He finds a job, earns enough money and then resumes his pursuit of his personal legend. When he stays true to his dreams, he is presented with opportunities to reach them.
Setting goals is a way of making your dreams come true
When you have a dream, if you say it out loud, write it down and then create plans to achieve you goal you can make that goal happen. Let’s be real…it needs to be a reasonable goal. And, weight loss or a second career are attainable goals. I doubt that as a woman in mid-life, I can become the president, an astronaut or a women’s NBA player (also I’m only 5’5” and not very good at team sports). BUT, I could enter local politics, learn to fly a plane or get a lot better at basketball, good enough to join a local team if I really desired. To make your dreams come true you need to make them into goals, plan for success and become UNSTOPPABLE. Know that any mistakes or missteps along the way are a normal part of development, learning and growth. And, know that once you define your goals and start taking steps to achieve them, amazing opportunities will often present themselves.
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About me: I am a functional and integrative Physician Assistant and Certified Nutrition Coach. And I am a working mom who had her own mid-life weight loss journey. I finally figured it out and I want to share my strategies with other woman. I help women maintain weight loss with a nutrition plan and weight loss coaching them and guide them in learning to eat in sync with their body’s innate patterns to bring them to their natural weight.